Part 2: After The Divorce Who Is Going To Want Me?

You are shocked and your dreams shattered. You are tired of crying and feel numb inside. You feel worthless, unwanted and lost. You ask yourself, “Who is going to want me?”

Have you asked yourself how to start over again or wondered why did you choose the wrong person? The answer is simple, stop blaming yourself.  Divorce doesn’t mean you are less competent or a failure. Divorce doesn’t mean you’re less desirable. It only means that the relationship didn’t work out.

So my advice is simple… get over yourself! Divorce does not define you. I beg of you to please be strong, it’s the only choice you have. It may not be easy to let go, perhaps you feel guilty or angry. Maybe you were betrayed but, learn to let the negative feelings go. I know you are having an emotional crisis but, force yourself to focus so that you can take care of your future.

What else can you do? You can get support from family and friends. Make them understand that they don’t have to pick a side or place judgment on either one of you, just ask them to be there for you. If you have children, talk to them and assure them that in spite of the divorce, they are still loved. Try not to abuse your body and mind by turning to alcohol or drugs. Sometimes too much partying will make you loose focus and you might do something that you’ll regret later.

The most important thing that you need to know is, everything is going to be alright. Maybe not today, but eventually everything will be alright!


  1. Earthy Tales · August 18, 2016

    I love the “my advice is simple. Get over yourself” part! I haven’t had a divorce or married for that matter, but have been cheated on and it’s hard to think about a love life after… But you’re right. Get over yourself, it doesn’t define you. 🙌🏻

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    • 1000shadesofwomen · August 24, 2016

      Thank you for the comment! Having that “bounce back” mentally is how we overcome all diversity and challenges in our lives! xoxo

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