Self worth – it’s amazing how many people struggle with their value. Some of you may know that Self-worth is based on the value you place on yourself and what you think about yourself. Some pretend or convince self to believe that they truly value who they are, right up until the part when it comes to relationships. When I say relationships, I’m speaking overall – friendships, idolizing celebrities, lovers, family or work related.
The Journey to True Worth Starts Within
Getting to the place of knowing your true worth is one of life’s journeys, wouldn’t you agree? Settling for less than you deserve, chasing love that isn’t yours, being afraid to speak authentically and being overly concerned with your partner’s thoughts of you are all signs of not knowing your worth. I’ve lied to myself and others for most of life, simply because I truly had no clue on my value or how to authentically value others. In my eyes, so many claim that their REAL, yet lack the knowledge, self-awareness and openness that it takes to hone in on when your on stage and when your off.
As a woman, a mother, business woman, and so on. I didn’t recognize and honor my full worth until my late 30’s. I stayed too long in the wrong relationships and stayed in casual relationships when I really wanted a committed relationship. I made my lover number one (priority). When all along, I was just an option. I swallowed my voice when I should have spoken up. I thought I was more worthy if I was in a relationship, I wore certain designers brands, styled my hair a certain way, if I was thinner, made a certain amount of money, I mean the list goes on.
I was so hell bent on being successful in every other part of my life, I didn’t equate who I was being and what I was doing in my life to not valuing my worth. I was only able to know and value my worth after doing the much needed inner work.
What’s Your True Worth?
The value you place on yourself and what you think about yourself determines whether or not you know your full worth. What value do you place on yourself? What do you think about yourself? The way you answer these questions determine whether or not you know how much you’re worth. Knowing your worth is a gradual process that only happens with awareness and conscious change. I constantly tweet and post every few weeks, “KNOW YOUR VALUE!” “WHAT’S YOUR VALUE” and “HOW DO YOU VALUE OTHER’S?”
If you’re looking for a easy way to calculate your value. Answer the following questions as raw as you can. I like to ask myself these questions standing in the mirror – to somewhat face myself.
- Settle for less than you deserve?
- Chase love that isn’t yours?
- Make others your priority while you’re their option?
- Care more what others think of you than you think about yourself?
- Spend time with people who can’t commit or are already in a relationship?
- Think that “I’m not enough.”
- Put your life on hold because you’re waiting to see what the other person will do?
- Go along with your partner whims instead of expressing what you’d like?
- Seek love, appreciation and approval from others instead of finding them within?
- Rationalize your people’s bad behavior even though it hurts you?
- Manipulate or control your other?
- Let your partner’s words and actions determine your mood?
- Idolizing people that don’t know your alive?
- A delusional thinker?
If “yes” or “sometimes” are your answers to any of the questions above, other people and external circumstances are determining your worth. Here’s the good news. Knowing where you stand is empowering. You can begin to improve your own worth.
How Can You Realize Your True Worth?
The most important person that matters is YOU! You are the one who determines your true self worth. I guarantee that you’ll find and know your true worth by putting these two practices into your life on a consistent basis.
Practice #1: Have high quality thoughts
Our thoughts and beliefs determine how we feel, which then determine our behaviors and actions. Replace low quality thoughts with high quality thoughts that you can believe in. For instance, if “I’m not good enough” is a habitual way of thinking for you, that thought leaves you feeling down about yourself. You’ll behave and act in ways that reflect this. This leads to attracting others who don’t treat you well. Every time “I’m not good enough” pops into your mind, replace it with “I’m good enough” or a positive thought that rings true for you.
Practice #2: Love yourself completely
We teach others how to treat us by the way we treat ourselves. If you want to be treated with kindness, respect and love, treat yourself with kindness, respect and love. Kindness begets kindness, respect creates respect and love brings about love. If you tend to be hard on yourself, practice self love.
Know Your True Worth
You deserve a high quality partner and fulfilling love life. If having true and lasting love is important, take the journey to find your full worth. This is the only way to get to your desired destination. Know that true and lasting love is yours when you place a high value on yourself and think well of yourself. Be patient with yourself and those around you during this journey. And most importantly, know your true worth?
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Hugs and Love,